Dani's Stories / July 16, 2017

How a TED talk changed my view on finding LOVE

I was talking to a girlfriend of mine the other day and she was telling me how hard dating is and that’s when I remembered this wonderful TED talk I heard years ago.

It’s a story as old as time… Building a successful career leaves you working endless hours (often traveling a lot for work). By the time yo get home, all you have the energy for is to hit the gym and then crash. The next day you start it all over again.

So how do we find love?

We all want that perfect fairy tale balance… successful career, the love of your life that makes your insides do that twisty thing when he touches you or sends you a sexy text message about how excited he is to see you when you land from you latest business trip (ladies, you know what I’m talking about! 😉 ).

Now the question is how do we find that? Does it really exist???

Honestly, as those of you following me know, I thought I had found my fairy tale ending. But my prince turned out to be a frog and I am not yet ready to hit the pavement to find my prince. But I know that when my heart heals, I will approach this task the way I approach everything else. With research, time and I won’t stop until I get what I’m looking for.

That might sound too business-like but who says that finding love isn’t the same thing as finding the perfect job? Do you not spend hours applying for different positions, tweaking your resume, researching companies and going on interviews?

How is that not the same as singing up to online dating, spending hours tweaking your profile, going through the different candidates, chatting and Facebook stalking and setting up dates (lets be real…. a first date is more like an interview!).

So why do we feel gross about approaching the search for love the way we approach our career goals?

The TED talk that I watched a couple of years ago was about a woman who hacked online dating!

This is a must watch video! 

After no success finding love and even less success in online dating, she approached dating from a scientific data-driven approach. Is this not how you would approach a work related issue? Of course it is! So why don’t you???

There is a common misconception that dating is the business of the heart; however, in reality it’s just business!

It’s the business of the mind and the only obstacle is you not approaching it as such.

You might be sitting there, reading this thinking what on earth does she know about all this… she’s SINGLE!

Haha well you might be right on that at the moment; however, I have been on so many dates and have compiled so much data that after I decide where in the world I will settle down I will be right there with you gals.

The main take away from this is that enough with the excuses! There’s no such thing as not enough time. You’re always glued to your phone so go start making good use of it lady! 😉